I think gratitude is a brilliant thing, but not necessarily in the way it’s used today. Practicing gratitude doesn’t solve any problems, cure any illnesses, fix horrible situations or make you happy. It’s not a solution, it’s a frame of mind that can make you feel better about yourself and others, and be able to appreciate the good things in the world and in yourself.
I recently read a blog post that I’ve got to recommend you read. It talks about the negative aspects of gratitude lists in a far more personal and honest way. Here’s a snapshot below:
“I’ve been making gratitude lists,” I said. “I’m really trying to look on the bright side.”
“Screw that,” he said. “Stop doing that immediately. It’s last thing you need. You need to make an Ingratitude List. You should be PISSED. Your life’s honestly kind of sh*tty right now. I’m not saying there’s no bright spots, but you need to stop trying to pretend you’re not in pain. You need to make a “This Sucks Ass” list.
I burst out laughing for the first time in ages. I walked out of his office with a huge smile on my face, swimming in a sea of relief…
Gratitude lists have the power to be brilliant and vastly improve your quality of life, as well as the ability to smother your life and mind in shame for still feeling bad and in pain despite all the ‘good things’. I think each person will need to work that out for themself, and I’ve been able to start doing that thanks to The Mighty.
Each month, The Mighty have been focusing on different aspects of self care, and this November it’s been gratitude. Each day there is a prompt, which suggests not only things such as what are you grateful for today, but also what you have learnt from the good and bad situations, people, etc.
Some of my favourite prompts I think are well worth pondering over are…
- What are three things you have planned for the holidays that you are grateful for
- Name three family members who have taught you something valuable.
- Choose three “negative” experiences that have taught you something about yourself.
- Pick three childhood experiences you are grateful for
- Name three teachers you’ve had who have taught you something valuable
Thank you for reading,